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How Marriage Contracts Can Help Save A Marriage In Trouble

While the popular image of divorce consists of the violent and highly destructive dissolution of a relationship, this is often not the case in the real world. Many couples simply drift apart from one another, unable to sustain the love they had for one another and unwilling to stay in a loveless marriage.
A common and much more tragic situation we often run into in the field of mediation is couples who still love one another or at least desperately want to make their marriage work but can’t seem to find common ground. These couples unhappily file for divorce simply because they believe they have no alternative.
Thankfully for these couples, however, an alternative option does exist. Colleen McNamee of McNamee Mediations has developed a last resort system, the marriage contract, that couples can use to divert the relationship’s course away from divorce at the last minute.

With the guidance of a divorce mediation specialist, the couple will identify the root causes of their marital issues that are driving them apart and then negotiate the terms of a written joint contract that address the necessary changes that need to be made. The contract is temporary, which means that once the allotted time runs out the couple will meet back up with the mediator to renegotiate the contract and reevaluate whether or not the divorce filing should be submitted. If the terms of the agreement are broken, the mediator will immediately begin the final filing process for the divorce.
It’s not often that a divorce mediator goes out of their way to prevent, rather than facilitate, a divorce. That is what differentiates McNamee from their peers – the care and attention given to every couple that works with the firm. A quick sample of the firm’s reviews confirms the wide range of advantages it holds over its competitors:

Colleen makes a sad and difficult process easier. She is smart, calming, knowledgeable, and has the ability to make a divorcing couple come together to an agreement, which is a much-better solution than hiring divorce attorneys who have the goal of pinning you against each other so they make more money.
She is worth every penny, as she is amazing at what she does. It’ll be much cheaper than using attorneys or a mediator who isn’t as good and will take longer. We used another mediator at first and it was such a waste of time and money.
Choose her, settle, and move on with your life.” – Mori N., Yelp Review

My ex-husband and I are very pleased with Colleen McNamee helping us resolve and mediate our divorce. Colleen is a true professional yet compassionate with both parties which helps to feel being listened and considered. My ex-husband and I were able to amicably agree to do the going forward as a family raising our seven-year-old thanks to Colleen’s expertise and explaining complicated legalese in simple terms. We highly recommend McNamee Mediations to anyone looking for a professional and compassionate mediation divorce attorney. Thank you! – Kiran N., Yelp Review


Read J P.‘s review of McNamee Mediations on Yelp
If you and your spouse have tried everything to make your marriage work but have seen nothing but failure, don’t give up. Work with McNamee Mediations to create a marriage contract that may save your relationship.
McNamee Mediations
+19492233836
4590 MacArthur Blvd #500, Newport Beach, CA 92660

When Friends Judge You And Your Relationship

Whether it was in high school, college, or adulthood, at some point, we have all had that friend who keeps being mistreated by the same person they love over and over again—yet never leaves. Or maybe, we’ve been that friend at one point.

Why We Judge Our Friends

It’s hard not to withhold judgment from a friend who makes questionable life decisions, especially when those decisions involve the people they are romantically involved with. The friendship can feel burdensome, with every conversation seeming to be about their relationship issues. You can’t help but wonder: “If the relationship is so bad, why doesn’t my friend just leave?”

We want the best for our friends; we want them to be loved as deeply by the people they choose to date and love. But it isn’t always up to us for our friends to have the confidence and self-worth they need in order to know that they deserve better than the person they’re struggling with. 

When a friend or family member is in love with someone who treats them poorly, they can be so infatuated that they become immersed in denial. They can’t let go of the relationship because they can’t come to terms with the fact that the love they have poured into their partner will never be fully reciprocated. 

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower.

Are Your Friends Too Judgmental?

We tell our friends about our lives because we want to connect and bond over shared experiences. We also want advice when we have difficult questions about our own lives and are at a loss for answers.

Two Women Sitting on White Bench

But what happens if our friends give us advice that is shrouded in judgment? 

“I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging—something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.” — Brené Brown.

Divorce is no longer the taboo it once was, but some people still experience judgment from their friends and family for choosing to end their marriage. It doesn’t help that the complexities of the divorce process can strain relationships even among those outside of the marriage—friends, relatives, and children can often feel pressured to take sides. 

In Orange County, couples are seeking divorce mediation instead of litigation because it is usually more cost-effective and efficient. While divorce can pull people apart more than it brings people together, Colleen McNamee of McNamee Mediations is a certified divorce mediator who is so effective at facilitating communication between both parties that some of her clients have reconciled! Colleen McNamee is even known as the “divorce whisperer”.  

The goal of a divorce mediator is to help both parties settle on the best mutual outcome. Most importantly, a mediator is a neutral third party who won’t cast judgment and won’t take sides. You can give McNamee Mediations a call today.

McNamee Mediations
4590 MacArthur Blvd Suite 500, Newport Beach, CA 92660