divorce mediator california

While the popular image of divorce consists of the violent and highly destructive dissolution of a relationship, this is often not the case in the real world. Many couples simply drift apart from one another, unable to sustain the love they had for one another and unwilling to stay in a loveless marriage.
A common and much more tragic situation we often run into in the field of mediation is couples who still love one another or at least desperately want to make their marriage work but can’t seem to find common ground. These couples unhappily file for divorce simply because they believe they have no alternative.
Thankfully for these couples, however, an alternative option does exist. Colleen McNamee of McNamee Mediations has developed a last resort system, the marriage contract, that couples can use to divert the relationship’s course away from divorce at the last minute.

With the guidance of a divorce mediation specialist, the couple will identify the root causes of their marital issues that are driving them apart and then negotiate the terms of a written joint contract that address the necessary changes that need to be made. The contract is temporary, which means that once the allotted time runs out the couple will meet back up with the mediator to renegotiate the contract and reevaluate whether or not the divorce filing should be submitted. If the terms of the agreement are broken, the mediator will immediately begin the final filing process for the divorce.
It’s not often that a divorce mediator goes out of their way to prevent, rather than facilitate, a divorce. That is what differentiates McNamee from their peers – the care and attention given to every couple that works with the firm. A quick sample of the firm’s reviews confirms the wide range of advantages it holds over its competitors:

Colleen makes a sad and difficult process easier. She is smart, calming, knowledgeable, and has the ability to make a divorcing couple come together to an agreement, which is a much-better solution than hiring divorce attorneys who have the goal of pinning you against each other so they make more money.
She is worth every penny, as she is amazing at what she does. It’ll be much cheaper than using attorneys or a mediator who isn’t as good and will take longer. We used another mediator at first and it was such a waste of time and money.
Choose her, settle, and move on with your life.” – Mori N., Yelp Review

My ex-husband and I are very pleased with Colleen McNamee helping us resolve and mediate our divorce. Colleen is a true professional yet compassionate with both parties which helps to feel being listened and considered. My ex-husband and I were able to amicably agree to do the going forward as a family raising our seven-year-old thanks to Colleen’s expertise and explaining complicated legalese in simple terms. We highly recommend McNamee Mediations to anyone looking for a professional and compassionate mediation divorce attorney. Thank you! – Kiran N., Yelp Review

Read J P.‘s review of McNamee Mediations on Yelp
If you and your spouse have tried everything to make your marriage work but have seen nothing but failure, don’t give up. Work with McNamee Mediations to create a marriage contract that may save your relationship.
McNamee Mediations
+19492233836
4590 MacArthur Blvd #500, Newport Beach, CA 92660

There have been plenty of people who have been blindsided by a breakup or divorce—but no one expects it to happen to them.

The painful truth is that your partner’s seemingly sudden desire to end your relationship was likely not a sudden decision. Their discontent had likely been brewing underneath the surface, and you only became aware of the truth when it could no longer be concealed. When a partner has committed romantic or financial infidelity, only to reveal their deception in the midst of ending your relationship, the separation is all the more painful.

Humans are cognitively wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. It goes along with our natural tendencies to avoid the uncomfortable truth while distracting ourselves with ignorant bliss.

It’s hard not to ask “why?” after you have been lied to or cheated on. While a reasonable question, the problem with that question is that the answers may not give you the peace you seek.

People lie and cheat in happy and loving relationships because they may need something or someone else to fulfill their needs. But those needs are often derived from personality traits and childhood trauma and have little to nothing to do with the relationship. People who have low self-esteem are likely to cheat because they crave the validation of secretly having multiple partners.

Infidelity has been shown to have negative mental health consequences, including posttraumatic stress symptoms, depression, and anxiety. A scientific analysis “revealed that attributing causality and responsibility to the cheating partner was associated with greater infidelity-related stress.” The analysis also found that high self-esteem was linked to one’s ability to manage the stress of infidelity. “For those with high self-esteem, the effects of negative appraisals on infidelity-related stress, as well as infidelity-related stress on both depression and anxiety, were dampened.”

The root cause of infidelity’s emotional aftermath is complex, spanning social, cultural, and evolutionary reasons, such as seeing the infidelity as a violation in relationship ideals, feeling a sense of loss in time invested in the relationship, societal norms and sanctions, and evolutionary and reproductive costs (Gordon & Baucom, 1999; Shackelford et al., 2000) — Coping with infidelity: The moderating role of self-esteem, Rosie Shrout, Daniel J. Weigel

It is important to understand the mental health consequences of infidelity. Allow yourself to introspect and feel the betrayal, anger, and grief, but avoid the pitfall of blaming yourself entirely for your partner’s unfaithfulness.

Life does not end when a relationship ends. It may, however, mean the end of your marriage. And while divorce may be painful, the process of legal separation does not have to be, especially when facilitated by an expert Orange County Divorce Mediator. Mediation allows couples to divorce on their own mutual terms, which can often be less complicated, less expensive, and more efficient than what happens in divorce court proceedings.

Read Eddie M.‘s review of McNamee Mediations on Yelp

Divorce is almost never a breeze, but mediation can feel like one in contrast to litigation. You can give McNamee Mediations a call today.

McNamee Mediations
4590 MacArthur Blvd Suite 500, Newport Beach, CA 92660

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